It is very important to nurture yourself. You can not be a good parent or a good spouse if you are not good to yourself first. This is one area where it pays to be selfish. What good can you be to others if you neglect your own health either physically or spiritually?
Gather a chalice of pure water or wine, music, a white or light blue candle, salt, and a fresh, new, beautiful rose or other flower. Cast the circle. Sprinkle salt on the ground and stand upon it skyclad. Hold the lit candle and feel its warmth and comfort. Take up the chalice, breathe deeply, and lift the chalice to the visualization of the goddess you make in front of you. Say, "Bless me, Mother, for I am your child." Dip your fingers into the chalice; anoint your eyes and say, "Blessed be my eyes that I may clearly see thy path before me." Anoint your lips and say, "Blessed be my lips that I may speak thy truth." Anoint your breast and say, "Blessed be my breast that I may love well and feel thy love for me." Anoint your loins saying, "Blessed be my loins which bring forth life and pleasure as thou hast brought forth all creation to please thee." Anoint your hands and say, "Blessed be my hands that I may do thy work with strength and skill." Anoint your feet and say, "Blessed be my feet that I may ever walk in your ways." Present yourself with the rose, knowing that it is her gift of blessing to you. Hold the rose and meditate. Play music if you wish. End the circle. Take care of yourself, do fun things and dress beautifully.